I’ve always had insane New Years Resolutions, but one has always been on the list: Lose weight. I’m not talking about losing weight to be healthier-I’m talking about losing weight to fit our society’s insane standards. I could blame a lot of things for my desire to be perfect…but mostly it’s just because I desire to be perfect. That’s why Leah and I wrote our book, Must.Have.Wine. A Toast to Motherhood. To make moms feel better in knowing that none of us are perfect; perfection in motherhood is simply unattainable. Needless to say, I’m working on this craziness I’ve created for myself, and last year I wrote a post about it all: A New New Years Resolution.
In this post I write about deciding to let go of my crazy weight issues and focus more on the real things that make me happy: My children, my career, and my balance of time. You see when I wrote this post, I had a full-time career (that I didn’t love at all) and two small children I was rushing to two different places every day. Then, I was coming home to write in my spare (spare? ha!) time so Leah and I could finish our book, along with trying to promote ourselves via social media. The people that were suffering from this crazy life? My family, but mostly- my children. I took a step back and tried to look at my life with a new perspective. I wasn’t happy. And while I was making good money, it wasn’t a career path I wanted to live forever. I was wasting valuable time doing something that often times had me going home stressed out and nearly in tears-time that could be better spent writing.
I left my insurance career after nearly eight years to pursue a dream of writing and have a slower paced life with my family. I took the leap of faith and it ended up being one of the best decisions of my life. For once, I’d made a New Years resolution that was reasonable, and I ended up far-surpassing it. Not to mention, by not focusing on crazy-fad diets (and reading Naturally Thin by Bethenny Frankel) I weigh what I weighed my freshmen year in highschool. Actually, I weigh a tad bit less to be exact. If I’d only had this thinking ten years ago, I’d be a changed woman, a lot earlier!
Now I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I’ve successfully accomplished my biggest dream, publishing a book. Along the way, I’ve built a business with a dear friend and great partner, Leah Speer. I’ve spent so much time with my family, I feel like I have a normal family life now. As a matter of fact, I spent the last two weeks with both my children on Christmas break, doing super fun things – something I never could have done as a working mom.
Sometimes the unachievable goals we set for ourselves are what ultimately has us failing in life, time and time again. I didn’t have a goal this year to quit my job, my goal was simply to have more time with my family and over all, be at peace. And…I made it happen. This New Years, look within to see what changes you really need to make…and not the shallow changes we are used to. If you need to lose weight, do it the healthier way – read Naturally Thin by Bethenny Frankel. STOP DIETING. If you want more time with your family, make time. If you’re unhappy with your career, stop complaining about it and start carving a path to a brighter future. If you want to run a 1/2 marathon (it’s on my list this year) start running! But make sure you’ve run a 5K first. Remember, achievable goals.
You can have whatever it is you desire. Set reasonable expectations of yourself and most importantly, set the wheels in motion. Action counts! Happy New Years Everyone! ~Trina